September 1, 2012

Grief




My consciousness is still down and towardness to others is still clouded with grieving. Grief stages that I undergo seem so deep for my recovery from loss turns to fear. The fear of being alone, unaided, unguided and unmonitored trough the caring arms that was once displayed unreluctantly by my grandma.

My grieving and the grief recovery will be soon over I know but it’s not easy letting go of the memories of her. Recovery from loss sometimes delusions me wanting to turn back the hands time so grieving and grief stages wouldn’t come into existence.

Spending that needed time with the people you love now would be the best thing. Don’t wait for that dreadful event-death to completely alienate you and bother you with guilt. We don’t want our minds be swarmed with pain and regrets that could alleviate grieving.

For me, my grieving will only stop if I will dream of her smiling and laughing at my silly jokes, like I used to.

   

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August 31, 2012

Am I worthy?



Subtleness all around
No movement, not even a sound
Could hear the breathing
My body trembling

Unasured of what’s next
Even my mind perplexed
Random thoughts in my head
Fearing that I might be dead

Started hearing various sounds
As if they were from underground
Fearfully those I ignored
Looked the other way and turned

Death again is playing tricks on me
Asking the soul be set free
Let the mind go willingly
And play the chords of insanity

My life maybe is in the helm
Keeping entirety overwhelmed
Knowingly, I have been wrong
This ordeal is taking so long

Me, my selfish me
Myself, self centeredness I see
I am not worthy
Does it really have to be me?


Wanting



Another burst of affection from my friend T3. I am deeply blessed for her having me share this piece of her subjective frame of mind.

Oh well you might think I'm crazy
To hang around with you
Or maybe you think I'm lucky
To have somethin' to do
But I think that you're wild
Inside me is some child..

You might think I'm foolish
Or maybe it's untrue
You might think it's hysterical
But I know when you're weak
You think you're in the movies
And everything's so deep
But I think that you're wild
When you flash that fragile smile
You might think it's foolish
What you put me through

And it was hard so hard to take
There's no escape without a scrape
But you kept it going till the sun fell down
You kept it going...

Oh well uh you might think I'm delirious
The way I run you down
But somewhere sometimes
When you're curious
I'll be back around
Oh I think that you're wild
And so-ooo uniquely styled

You might think it's foolish
This chancy rendezvous
You might think I'm crazy
All I want is you..


Destiny


Call it fate if you want but I was moved from the movie that I saw last night. I’m usually fond of action, suspense and mystery type but this time, I saw myself being drawn to a romantic feel-good movie. The movie is entitled ‘The Lucky One’. There was something about it that intrigued me. It was destiny, as was themed by the movie.




It is absolutely true what it said that destiny sometimes come in least unexpected circumstances. The people around you, the places and even the sudden glow on your face are things uncalled for. Things happen for a purpose be it good or bad.

It is only our prerogative to invite destiny to play a role in our lives or not. Through this life, it’s destiny or fate that guides us. We still have final say on how we are going to live it. A beautiful and happy life is the one that is lived fully made and guided by destiny.


to Inang...



From where I'm about to start
Suddenly, you’ve drifted apart
You know, I could have shown you more
Things you haven’t seen before
I really love to be with you
At least ease the pain that you are going through
Are you in a hurry? Or am I just too slow
Maybe thou art, just going with the flow




Pardon me since I’m not used to
Of spending the day without you
Still a kid I will long for your presence
Never could imagine the absence
Your voice will linger in my mind
Memories of you are never far behind
Especially the laughter you exude
Advices, tears, all of them, gratitude



You leave us all behind
To where that I don’t mind
As long as you are happy
Savour it ‘till eternity
Safe travel you may have
Pray on our behalf
Rest in peace my dear ‘’Inang’’
It is done, your bell has rang


August 29, 2012

Farewell


I decided to watch again the whole season 2 of ‘’Suits’’ yesterday. Admittingly, I was strucked and awed by the beauty of Rachel Zane played by Meghan Markle. It was towards the end – episode 9, to be exact when Rachel broke the sad news to Mike Ross that his grandmother passed away.

It was exactly at the same time, after that scene, that my mother entered my room.... She told me that my grandmother had passed away, just minutes ago. That’s how my grandma bid farewell to me.   

I came to know her as the one who defends me from everything, a firm supporter of my sometimes twisted cause, the guaranteed buyer of my silly jokes and a true masterchef. My grandma-’Inang’.





I remember many things about her. She loved my sister like anyone else. My brother in-law was then no match for her. Joe Dumars can eat his heart out with the way she ‘guarded’ my sister. Inang was like a Harvard debater to a vegetable, meat and fish vendor in the market everytime she brings and takes me along with her.  How she lobbied for me against my parent’s will, how she smiles and how she waves her culinary hand to every dish done. And when she’s mad, better step aside for her stinging pinch will land unto you. At an old age, she still manages to do it.

As of yesterday, everything about Inang vanished and flew carelessly above. She’s now together with her husband in heaven. I know that she’s happy now. She finally got what she always wanted: ‘Langit’ [Heaven].

The same as with my sister, Inang will always be in my heart and mind....

  

August 26, 2012

Management Tip


I tripped upon a management tip from time.com:





Every team has a certain amount of conflict, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. As a leader you should identify whether the tension is destructive or constructive, and address it directly.

Destructive conflict, including personal attacks and scapegoating, undermines the trust that is vital to working relationships. Manage it by acknowledging the problem, using persuasion, reminding others of the long-term perspective, or otherwise deploying your power as a leader. Constructive conflict, on the other hand, is when team members have divergent perspectives on your most important tasks or priorities. Ask pointed questions to draw the issues out. Then insist that your employees discuss them openly and work out solutions that can be integrated into your team’s overall vision.





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Ease


Good things rarely come our way these days. Everything can be bought and manipulated to go with or against our will. We can do nothing but to stare innocently. But we can do something about this dilemma. Below are some random bursts that can help you ease through the various complications of life.

Stop blaming. Inhibit God, yourself and others for what is happening. Take time to focus on the problem at hand. Find solutions that are tangible. Never solve a problem with another problem. Make this problem a challenge for your faith and strength. Get inspirations and comfort to those who have undergone those type. Never loose hope. It’s the only thing that must not go out of your system.

And before anything else, pray. Pray that may God give you a clear heart and mind in facing these difficulties in life. That we may walk on the right path.





Ignore





Call me insane, maybe a fool
To think I’ll use it as a toll
Words you always throw
Are mistaken as a go

Forgive me for being so stupid
For not knowing as I earlier did
Sudden reminder of the impossible
Slamed with reality that is probable

Spare me of just looking at you
Be at myself, sane too
To know you are there, I’m excused
Seeing you nowhere, that I refuse

Be with me please, at least for a while
Let my feelings for you compile
My shout for attention, evade
For you my emotions are easy to persuade

But deep in my heart, it will still be you
Embedded in my mind too
Overlook me and forever ignore
Blink at my existence and what I’m here for

That  I fell...ignore...


Thanks


Despite my lack of the required medals and distinctions of a writer, all I offer is my humble, sometimes mediocre state of mind. The events in my life will serve as my laurels and my psycho-philosophical mind hopes to drape me with sanity needed. I rely on faith to keep myself grounded as well as reminder of my being human always.





As all of us do, we want to make a difference, one way or the other. We have various levels of needs in life. Am just hoping that those aims could somehow affect others. Getting and savouring a goal of ours is a great prize when proper acknowledgement is made.

In my case, I would like to thank everyone who takes their time to read this blog of mine. Taking notice of something in a different perspective is an effort considered. Being moved, one way or another is an effort much higher. I really appreciate the same. I just wish that I could do more.


Holy Gospel






Holy Gospel of Jesus Christ according to Saint John 6: 60-69


Many of the disciples of Jesus who were listening said, This saying is hard; who can accept it?

Since Jesus knew that his disciples were murmuring about this, he said to them, "Does this shock you? 

What if you were to see the Son of Man ascending to where he was before?
It is the spirit that gives life, while the flesh is of no avail. The words I have spoken to you are spirit and life.

But there are some of you who do not believe." Jesus knew from the beginning the ones who would not believe and the one who would betray him. 

And he said, "For this reason I have told you that no one can come to me unless it is granted him by my Father." 

As a result of this, many (of) his disciples returned to their former way of life and no longer accompanied him. 

Jesus then said to the Twelve, "Do you also want to leave?" 

Simon Peter answered him, "Master, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. 

We have come to believe and are convinced that you are the Holy One of God."